I am up very early. I finally gave up and at 3:30 am decided to get up. I love writing early in the morning. The house is quiet. All my family is asleep. Today my daughter Taylor is getting married. I love that they found each other. Last night, Taylor was given some advice from her dad Bob. She called me afterwards and shared the advice. Her told her that "any two people can get married and make it work." He explained that marriage is hard work and that they have to put each others needs above their own. Basically he was telling her that commitment to each other, the marriage and that to have a God centered family/marriage.
I know that marriage is not to be taken lightly. Taylor is becoming a stepmother today to Travis's ten year old son. Taylor just turned 24 years old last month. I have seen her with him. I know how much she loves him. I also know that there will be times that she is not "equipped" to know how to handle a instant "son" who is older. I know that her love for him and Travis will prevail. I told her that times will come that will be hard. It's part of our "imperfect" life and how she chooses to handle the situations is going to be important.
When Ty and I married I had three beautiful young girls. I was divorced by the time I was 27 years old with Taylor, Gentry and McKay. I was so not looking to find Tyler. I had gotten married the first time to the girls dad at 19 years old. It was "not a mistake" but a life experience that I now have three of my favorite, most beautiful best friends and daughters from. So I was newly divorced and not looking on the day I met Ty. (yes, I met him at the gym on the first day of my brand new gym membership) When we married he had two boys and I had my three girls. Instant love and we were married within a year of meeting. We had our sons Zach and Tyler. Imagine dealing with the ex's... a new house, blending and introducing our kids to our "shared" life together, moving to a new home, and I had to get used to being married to a doctor who was working 12-14 hours a day at the time. I was 28 years old and yet, Ty and I were determined to allow our LOVE to triumph and weather the storms. Oh we had storms. Once Ty told me that my feistiness was cute. I think he loved that I was a strong woman. I was raised to be strong in that I believe man and wife are equals. I grew up in an abusive household and watched my father degrade and beat my mother. I vowed that I would be allowed to express my opinions and not be in that horrible situation ever. I knew the first hit would have been the last hit. I watched my father constantly cheat on my mother. It was so hard and yet I learned by watching and knew I would break the pattern. I would not allow someone to do that to me.
So I'm sharing this because I believe in life... "people will treat you, the way you allow them to treat you." I heard this by Dr. Phil years ago. I believe it. I know that marriage is give and take and through the hard times and the good times, the foundation just grows stronger. A marriage built on love, trust, and integrity is vital. I encouraged Taylor and Travis to be committed to each other above all else. Treat each other like the most valued and special person in the universe. I know that they will be happy.
I wanted to share more of their photos today. It's raining right now and the reception is outside. No matter what happens it will be a WONDERFUL day.
I love that my husband talked to Taylor last night and gave her advice on the phone. I was telling her what he was telling me to tell her. He's not a big talker right now. He does not have a lot of energy. He has been having some major issues with the graft/host problems and is having twice daily infusions for anti-rejection. Unfortunately, the drugs are causing kidney issues and they are now trying to deal with two issues. He is still very weak and spends most of his time in bed resting (I don't know if rest is the right word). He will not be with us today to celebrate. This makes me sad, but I know he would if he could.
Also, if you are in UTAH this weekend. Remember it is the big WAREHOUSE sale today and tomorrow.