Change is hard and often this makes us AFRAID. I completely can identify with this. I go to Cafe Rio and I get the shredded pork salad EVERY single time. I resist change because it is the "unknown." What if I am disappointed? What if I don't like it? This is a silly example but it used to be me.
I know it's crazy but just ONE of the things that has changed with me is EXPANDING and trying new things is when I go to restaurants now. It's a baby step but for me, it's something I never did. I have to give credit for this to Brian. I am all about being SAFE. I like routine and for me this makes me feel SAFE.
Do you know how often I hear from women who ask me how I do what I do? They have dreams and they are FEARFUL or just don't know how to go for what they want. My creative career has been a long and wonderful journey. SETBACKS have and continue to happen. I actually see them as the important lessons to "make" myself want to pick myself up and SUCCEED more. I decided long ago that FAILURE IS NOT AN OPTION and I would follow my heart and do what I felt was meant for me. I listened strongly to God in my heart and life. I also knew my PATH was my own path. I have always felt strongly to FOCUS on what I do and not on what others do.
My biggest competition is myself. I want to be the BEST me. I talked about this in my book. It's simple- if you FOCUS on evolving and growing and creating YOU, then you don't have time or the focus to worry on what everyone else is doing.
I realized that when I first started designing that NO MATTER how great a collection was or sold that I designed, SOMEONE would say something that would "hurt" my feelings. I was new at product design and with each new release I would "FEAR" being criticized. It was a hard but essential lesson for me to learn.
I was allowing FEAR to stop me in some ways.
Now I remind myself EVERY single day-
I don't want to ever live a life of regret or asking myself, "WHY didn't I just do it?" There is so much more to GAIN then to lose. I say GO for your dreams. Don't ever settle.
I hope you will remember that it's really almost like BABY STEPS in life. You grow stronger and more FEARLESS as you do small things to grow in your confidence.
I have so many AMAZING big things in the works for my company and designs. Many would be SHOCKED but excited at my future. I am
evolving as a designer. I am challenging myself and
FOCUSING on exciting and expanding into new markets for my company. I don't allow myself to "DEFINE" or limit what I want to do.
The other night we had my first book launch. Gentry asked me if I was nervous to do it. I thought about it and honestly had to say, "I'm always concerned and really want to talk from the heart and make it meaningful BUT I know and am confident in WHY I wrote the book and it's message so I'm not afraid."
So much in life- WE have no CONTROL. We are not really in charge. I have chosen to control my thoughts and belief in myself.
For me and my personal journey I would say that overcoming my personal fear has required a mindset of me choosing to grow and change as needed. What do we really have to lose by TRYING and GOING for something we really want?????
It's a mindset and outlook. I knew that FEAR can trap anyone. It does not happen overnight and it will take time. It's so very worth it.